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Sunday, July 29, 2012

creative no's and being a clear channel

transformation and clarity
Is this an oxymoron? Is it really possible to say no and still  maintain your relationships?   Why do women tend to  say yes instead of no so often . Why do healers  have so much  difficulty with this issue.
Some of the reasons are:
....we don't want people to dislike us...

...we really like to be helpful to everyone...
...it is anxiety provoking to say no...
....social work and psychology have a built in predisposition to help others no matter how  we feel....
...religious and cultural bias states it is selfish more emotional and compassionate...
...we don't want people to dislike us...........
I am sure that there are many other reasons. However, what is more important is what  do we  do to change this pattern . I feel that it is  simply saying one no at a time. Because if we don't say no, we get angry and feel like we are being  taken for granted. When we do  say no and really mean it, we have so much more clarity and self confidence.
So, it takes three weeks to change a habit and I have already  completed my first day. What creative ways have you learned to say no to the important things and people in your lives.

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