Parenting is Complicated

Its complicated!

Everything feels complicated right now. I know that each generation thinks that their lifes were easier and simpler than the current one. Yet, I believe that when I was growing up and even when my kids, in their thirties now, had an easier time of it than current children Perhaps the dividing line is the accessiblity of the internet. Certainly, when I was parenting I looked to my family, friends  and to my favorite parenting books to inform me about how to raise my kids. Now, we ask Alexa to tell us how long should my baby sleep or why is she crying so much and when should she talk?



The answers are omnipresent.  We have so much new parenting  research and information that is coming in steadily from the sciences and yet we remain unsure about how to proceed.  I think its because the plethora of additional information has made us doubt our knowing in a destructive way. We don't trust ourselves any more. We need just a little bit more information and we don't know when to stop.

There are so many things that we could be doing and yet we are frozen in place.
meditation, tapping, hypnosis, breathing, channeling, reading walking, losing weight.....

I don't believe that these skills  are not enough in themselves to help us  break though the feeling of being frozen. I believe that we also need kind, authentic mentors to hold the way. It does not have to be a yogi, psychotherapist, a priest, or a shaman or your mother. The important factor is  that it is someone that you trust and they appear to be  living a good life in your eyes. They can guide you in seen and unseen ways to do this deep inner work of knowing yourself.

 It is complicated and yet really simple.